Some Ditches You Can't Climb Out Of Alone

When you fall into a ditch there are really only three ways out. You climb out yourself, you wait for enough rain to fill it up so you can float to the top, or you wait for somebody to come pull you out.

Problems work exactly like that.

The shallow ones

A small problem is a shallow ditch. You dig your feet in, grab the edge and pull yourself out. Maybe you're a little dirty but you made it.

When your options start disappearing

But the bigger the problem the bigger the ditch and your options start disappearing fast. At some point the walls are too high to climb. At some point no amount of rain is filling that thing up. And now you're just standing at the bottom looking up waiting for somebody to notice you're down there.

When nobody comes

And sometimes nobody is coming either. The walls aren't getting shorter, the rain isn't coming, nothing.

That's not weakness. That's just the reality of how big some problems get. Some situations were never going to be solved and that's just the weight you have to learn to carry.

That's the hardest truth about some problems. Not every ditch has a way out. Sometimes you look up and realize you've exhausted every option and the only thing left to do is accept where you are. That's not giving up. That's just being honest with yourself about what is and what isn't in your control.

Some things don't get fixed. Some situations don't get better. And learning to make peace with that might be the hardest thing a person ever has to do.

And that's okay.